Parents

Hi guys.. Its long time since I wrote something on my blog.. Well another year gonna get over. It was the worst year in my life. There was a lot of pain that life presented to me. Well its true that you get stronger with each hurdle in life. Life teaches you a new lesson everyday whether you want to learn or not.

It’s always easy to say that everything happens for a reason and also there is no point in thinking of what has happened and that we have to move forward with life. But is it that easy to move on. Well it wasn’t for me. The night I lost my father I will never forget in my life. It was an unexpected event but that taught me a lot of things and also made me repent for lot of things I did. Parents are the irreplaceable part of one’s life and we don’t understand that till we lose them. We say they don’t understand us and there is a lot of generation gap between us. But do we really think from their view-point. We always speak from our side. I don’t tell that they are always right but it is a fact that we don’t think on their perspective of things.

Every person in this world want to be loved by every one around him. Its true and same with parents too. They not only want their kids to love them but they want to see that love expressed to them. That’s the thing which most of us don’t do. We say we love our parents and care for them but do we really express them. I doubt; because I don’t express though I love them. When I say any harsh words I repent and feel very sad inside but I never run to them and say I am sorry I did a mistake. If this is done then the relationship would be on a level that most of us could never imagine.

Once I was told by a person “try to say sorry for each mistake you think you have done to your parents. Try and hug your parents each day and express your care and see the sea change in the relationship. You will feel much better and the comfort level that would exist at your home is inexpressible.” I don’t remember who said this now. But its right though I haven’t done it. 🙂

The self-esteem and individuality that every person carries is his own enemy and the person never understands this. He thinks he would become very small in front of his parents if he tells the simple word sorry. But the question is if he can’t get shed his ego in front of his own parents then where will he?

Most of us take our parents for granted. We reveal most of our secrets to our friends but not to their parents. Why does this happen????? This is a simple thing. When we make a silly mistake in our childhood we admit but parents jump on you and scold you. We get frustrated. When we do a mistake and tell a friend he doesn’t jump on you neither scolds you but he tells in your own language and feels your mind and speaks calmly. This increases the comfort level you have with your friends and you are much more open with them than to your parents. But mostly if you think the end advice or solution that a “good friend” would have given and that your parents would have given would be similar though the approach would be different. It’s all in the mind..

I always try and be good to my mother but its a tough job being always with her and making her happy always. I know I am very bad but I am not able to correct myself. Hope she understands me one day….